The Secret Why 99% of New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Work… and How You Can Be That 1%!

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Disclaimer: Only read if you’re a go-getter who strives for success and wants to achieve your highest potential this year. This article may offend the lazy.

Here’s the thing you have to know about me: I’m a complete gunho when it comes to celebrating the new year! From re-arranging furniture in my pad for better feng sui to doing everything in my power (and sometimes beyond) to ensure I’m in the right outfit, at the right place when the clock strikes 12.

Why? Because New Year’s Eve is my favorite holiday of the year! It’s the oldest and most universal holiday that transcends through time and culture. And, if you just walk down your street, you’ll notice how everyone walks with an extra pip in their steps. People are so recharged and optimistic about the future it’s contagious! I feel it in the air and I absolutely love it!:)

Every year, I like to make a to-do list about things I want to accomplish in the new year. There’s always something magical about jotting down goals. As you list your bulletins, the words imprint in your mind. When you’re reading them out loud, they become  more than just ink on a piece of paper… they turn into verbal affirmations!

I know many of you are skeptical about making new year’s resolutions… and I don’t blame you! Wanna know why most resolutions don’t come true? It’s not because the goals you set are unattainable – it’s because you’re setting them wrong!

You see, people often set resolutions in future tenses. “Next year, I will lose weight”, “I will make more money”, “We’re going to get a promotion,” etc. The biggest problem with listing goals in future tenses is that you’re basically telling yourself you’re not quite there yet, leaving that little bit of doubt in your mind, wondering if you ever will get there. Our brain doesn’t recognize the differences in past, present, and future tenses. It responds most effectively to messages of the present, right now. For example, if you say, “I will break millions in revenue for my company next year”, compare that to saying, “My company is currently generating millions in revenue.” Which statement feels more active?!

Also, keep in mind that you should not be “realistic” and “reasonable” for making your resolution. Have you seen a commercial or an advertisement where the brand describes their product reasonably? Would you buy a car that has average functions? Eat at a restaurant that promises you’ll walk away with average satisfaction? If these goals don’t excite you and make you want to jump out of bed every morning, they’re not going to be enough to help you get through challenging times.

Here are my new year’s goals for 2013:

  1. I’m taking better care of myself, setting myself up mentally and physically ready for success by eating right and waking up 5 days a week at 6 am to work out.
  2. I’m the author of a New York Times’ best-selling book that empowers gen Y women to go out there, discover their passion, and open up opportunities for success.
  3. I’m leading my company – PopStop TV Network – to produce several popular entertainment TV shows in U.S. and international markets.
  4. I’m speaking on many national television shows about our brand and our mission.
  5. We’re multiplying in company growth and out-producing our competitors. We’re establishing ourselves as a dominant force in the world of youth entertainment.
  6. I’m increasing my social media presence 10x by increasing my level of activities online and vlogging 3 times a week.
  7. I’m traveling through the country to speak at seminars, conferences, etc.
  8. I’m overcoming my fear of the unknown. I’m a fearless bitch who says “YES” to new opportunities, changes, every possibility, and doesn’t take “No” for an answer.
  9. I’m close friends with some of the most powerful, influential, and kind people in the world.
  10. I’m doing at least one good deed a day to pray it forward and share my blessings.

What are your 2013 goals? Hit the comments and tweet me @XiXiYang!